Last night I gave a talk titled “The Age of Anxiety” and it was SO GOOD! If you missed it, don’t worry… the recording will be rolling out by the middle of next week so be sure to look for the MTL Podcast on iTunes.
I wanted to mention two things from last night...
First, I mentioned that I am a huge fan of herbal supplements when it comes to anxiety. Afterwards, some people asked what I meant by what I said. Looking back, I can only imagine that everyone was wondering to what I was referring because of where I live... right? : ) So to be clear, this picture is what I take on a daily basis to help with my anxiety, and I feel it has really helped me. For more of my story, listen to The Age of Anxiety on iTunes.
Second, I can't stress enough using GOOD ingredients to cook up peace in your life. Finding healthy distractions as well as ways to care for yourself and reinforce the truth about who it is you are and to ground yourself in the present moment of reality. SO many times UNreality and irrational thinking can grab ahold of you. One of the GOOD ingredients I use is my past stories. I have them on hand and ready to go so I can remember all the times before when I made it through. Times when the worst case scenario did not happen even though I was so sure it would... AND times when it did happen, and I am still here. : )
Those stories give me strength...
they remind me that I am in the hands of God...
and that tomorrow will come.
Peace be with you today, this week and this month.
There's an ancient saying about charitable giving and acts of generosity that instructs us to give in such a way that our left hand doesn't know what our right hand is doing. In other words, "Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhh." Be quiet about your giving. Love quietly. : )
Can we support and come alongside of others when there is truly nothing in it for ourselves to gain... other than the GOOD vibes?
I recently read a top ten list of things we do nowadays that would seem totally absurd to people 50 years ago... like, calling someone and asking where they are (because they obviously would be at home, where their phone is, duh?)... or like, taking pictures of a meal (what a waste of film).
We live in a world of posting. Private things are more public, and the saying I mentioned above was about keeping some things quiet. So what if you don't even get a blog post, snap chat or picture from the gift you gave? What if it stays completely a secret?
I fully believe that there are times we should give and literally expect nothing in return. NOTHING.
I also believe that perspective seems pretty UNtrendy right now... and is MUCH needed.
So try to embrace being a little UNtrendy... give without any sort of recognition... resist taking a picture or posting anything... don't hijack GOODness for your own gain... and be known by your love for others without the hashtags, posts, tweets or pics.
Ready. Set . Go!
Mondays are becoming my pause.
Not the entire day. Just during part of it. I GET to adventure inward. Sometimes it feels good. Sometimes it doesn't. It's pretty interesting just to feel though... to really feel.
I've been watching this TV show titled "Alone." It's all about survivalists going out into the wild and attempting to be the last person standing for a cash prize. What I find fascinating is how many of them are confronted with feelings that bubble up to the surface... sometimes feelings they didn't even know they had.
With all the distractions and busyness stripped away, they are able to feel.
Weeks, though they are only 7 days long, can be quite long and full sometimes. We cram so much into a day, and even over the course of 24 hours, it can be rather easy to get a bit lost. So 7 days can leave us feeling quite off course.
Maybe we all need a day to calibrate... to find our direction again.
Maybe we need a day to feel what we otherwise push aside, ignore and sometimes bury.
What aren't you feeling?
You know that question you get asked a million times a day but never truthfully answer, "How are you doing?" How is your job? How is school? How is your marriage? How is your family? How are your friends? How is life?
What is hiding just beneath the surface of yourself and your life?
What are you not feeling that would rush to the surface if you would just pause?
Some Mondays I feel aches and pains rise up. I sense a need for rest. My body begins telling me that I haven't been doing such a good job taking care of it.
This Monday, today, I just feel slightly off. I'm having a To-Do List repeatedly flood my attention... though I know it can wait. The longer I sit with the relentless list, I recognize that just underneath it I feel some hint of failure and regret. The list wants me to shove those feelings to the side and to just get busy doing... not being.
Other Mondays I revel in a sense of accomplishment. I'm able to sit and relax and smile and enjoy. I love those Mondays. : )
Most Mondays I just remind myself of what I value... what my sparks joy in my heart and my life. I find myself just needing to remember that which matters most to me... what I truly care about so I can set off toward that direction... my True North.
I hope you pause this week.
I hope you feel what's hidden, buried or been ignored.
I hope you remember what is most true of yourself.
May you adventure inward and live toward your True North.
Happy Monday : )
In the past few weeks, I was able to help 2 couples who's wedding plans had been drastically interrupted (notice I didn't say "ruined") by the recent hurricanes.
Listening to their stories and seeing their tears brought me depth, meaning and insight I personally didn't see coming. I thought I was doing the good thing, yet they were offering me even MORE.
I am now convinced that the illusion of control often prevents us from experiencing the true gift that life is.
When Plan B or even Plan X becomes the path before us, we get hung up on what didn't happen and how things didn't go according to "the plan."
These 2 couples were quite the opposite. They certainly grieved the loss they felt... but that loss led to another path, another plan which was still their story and it was full of life and love. Their weddings weren't ruined at all! To see them embrace the unexpected interruption in their lives made me take a hard look at how I experience life... whether or not I continually receive it as the gift it truly is. : )
My hope for all of us today: SURRENDER THE OUTCOME.
Back in middle school, I was slimed by my best friend's high school brother during a game of basketball. Near the end of a pretty heated game, he full-body fouled me with his sweaty, smelly body... and yes, he was on the "skins" team. I could barely open my eyes because of what covered them. It was on lips. Up my nose. It was everywhere... and it was NASTY!
We all leave something behind... some sort of RESIDUE in our absence. In fact, I would argue that we want to leave something behind... that it is a part of our human condition. We have an impulse to mark things, impart things, pass on things, and impact the world. From gum under chairs and initials on trees, to branded empires and family riches, we WANT to leave something behind.
What do you leave behind?
What spills out of you and onto others?
Do people take notice? I hope they do.
And I hope they want more of what you're full of.
We all know that we can be full of some pretty choice words. : )
We all know that the opposite is also true.
There are so many people in my life that leave love behind. I can literally feel it when they go. It's almost as if I can even smell them coming.
And truth be told, I'd rather be drenched in love than almost anything nowadays.
You have an amazing role in our shared story... how you live, what you create...
you existing as a human being is nothing short of a miracle.
You possess the ability to inspire, spark and create life... your potential is truly endless...
We talked about it.
We all thought about it.
We created bracelets, key chains, anklets and tokens with ONE word on them.
ONE word to... INSPIRE, NUDGE, CHALLENGE, ENCOURAGE, REMIND and CNETER us.
Then we took to the streets. Armed with smiles, thought provoking questions we invited others to think of ONE word. Then we made bracelets, key chains, anklets and tokens with their ONE word on them.
After one month and hundreds words... these are the interesting results. The larger the word, the more times it occurred.
These posts offer further reflection on topics we tackle during MTL nights.