More to Life has become a meeting place for people, a community of people who want and see there is more to life and how to tap into that MORE.
Every human--their person, their being-- contains depths to their self that may, across the timeline of an entire life, go undiscovered or ignored. We like to think we know ourselves better than anyone else. Sometimes, though, we may tell ourselves a story about who we aren't, or maybe of who we want to be but have not arrived there yet. But who you aren't, isn't intresting and in order to get to a place of who you want to be, you must accept and see yourself for who you are now. There is something about geting down to the nitty-gritty within ourselves that may uncover undesirable truths of who we are.
More to Life, for me, is a place to where I go to find encouragement and inspiration to open up myself and dive deep within. As much as engaging in community and connecting with one another is entirely important, it is just as important to connect with our own interiors. With so many social outlets and faces we can put on for certain people or groups, one way to get reacquainted with yourself is to ask the WHY.
Keep in mind, relationships don't always refer to people. Everything we choose to participate in--jobs, hobbies, or other commitments--requires time and energy and effort to be a part of. In other words, we enter into relationships with and through those things. I have found, very recently in fact, stepping back and looking at these aspects of my life and asking myself WHY gives me insight to who I am now.
Why do I do this...?
Is it for money...?
Is it for status...?
Is it for the love or the passion...?
Is it because of an outside pressure...? Because everyone/no one else is doing it...?
Is it because of pressure to not let someone down...?
There is no right or wrong answer to any of these questions...and these are only a few questions that I tend to ask myself when looking into the reasons I chose to enter into a relationship with/through something. But to know your why and to be blatantly honest with yourself is crucial. Recently, I have questioned some of the things in my life, some things that I used to enjoy but don't seem to anymore. Why did I enjoy them? Why does it seem I don't anymore? The interests and people you engage can either fill you up with joy and significance or tap you out of emotional and sometimes physical stamina. I realized the things in my life I have dedicated a lot of my time and effort and mental capacity are really things that don't fill me up anymore. In fact, they tap me out, so much so that it bleeds into other aspects of my life; things that I want to do, some I need to do, either go undone or the experience of them suffer tremendously.
When I intentionally consider my life, it has been fairly stagnant for the last couple years now. Same jobs and same experiences, just another calendar year in the books and I was comfortable with it and it never seemed to bother me. But as time goes on, times change, and we change. We are constantly BECOMING someone new every day. As we become and change, it's possible that our relationships should change too. I've now realized some of the things that I have a relationship with are no longer helping me. I'm doing them just out of commitment and for my livelihood.
So I asked myself WHY and some of the answers to my WHY were not easy to admit. When we ask ourselves WHY, we have to be ready for the difficult truth of some good reasons and not-so-good reasons as well...an inner voice of truth that we sometimes ignore in order to portray a more neatly packaged story.
It's important to know your good, bad and ugly WHYs. THey will certainly change and evolve over time--maybe next week, or next year, or years down the road. Knowing the full scope of your WHYs and embracing them will help you discover your true self, and know your depths, and live more connected to who it is you truly are.
These posts offer further reflection on topics we tackle during MTL nights.