most likely you have multiple personalities... i know i do.
when i moved to breckenridge, i quickly learned that the majority of locals drink to have fun and wind down at the end of their days. i came from a lifestyle where drinking was frowned upon... not to mention their are some addiction issues among my parents' siblings. in other words, drinking wasn't my thing.
it felt weird to be the guy not drinking and always ordering something else. so i tried to blend in and did my best to like beer. i didn't study it or start my own brew, but i did always ask everyone about their favorite drink and attempt to see if it might strike the same chord in me. years later, nothing has... i still don't drink, and i'm getting better at not feeling self-conscious about it.
there's who i was... who i wanted to be... and who i projected when with others... and maybe MORE.
something that helped me was bumping into a guy that told me his story. he dated and is now married to a bartender. she drinks. he doesn't. when they were dating he would order a beer, take it to the bathroom with him, pour it out and refill the bottle with water and return to the bar. he just never felt comfortable being himself. we talked and i learned he has all sorts of reasons similar to mine as to his WHY. as i listened to his story, i couldn't escape the feelings that i had for him... i just wanted him to not care about what others thought... i wanted him to truly be himself... he didn't need to borrow someone else's plot or read from anyone else's script.
what i am still learning: the script is mine to write... yours to write. we need to be true to who it is we are... free to be you... free to be me. that's certainly where he is now. that's where i'm taking steps toward.
who you are is more interesting than who you aren't.
live your story.
you be the you that you are.
These posts offer further reflection on topics we tackle during MTL nights.